Sunday, June 04, 2006
A parental disagreement.......
We went over to visit some family today and sarah got to play with her boy cousins, she found a toy gun and was playing with it with her cousin's and with in 10 min. she was using it to show her anger and frustration......for example her 2 1/2 year old cousinmade her angry by trying to take her toy so she points the gun at his head and says I shot you! This really bugs me........alot. I do not want her playing with guns at all and if it wasn't for her father telling her she could I would have put a stop to it right then and there, but I didnt' want to go against him infront of her...but she will nto be allowed to play with them from here on in......his philosophy is well if she didnt' have a gun she could hit him with a stick, my word on that is sticks dont' kill.....if she decides to get mad and swing a stick it isnt' leathal........needless to say this is one agrument I plan to win, my daughter is not going to play with guns, I do not liket he behavior and I will nto let it go on!
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We'll discuss it. So what if she got angry and shot him with a toy gun, better than when he tried to actually punch her....
1 kim
0 carmen
sorry carmen but i've got to agree with kim ( its a mother thing we just know these things)
anyway , here's my views. I think later in life when sarah ( and cameron) are old enough to grasp the concept of what a gun is and respect all it involves then its ok . To me its more of a safety issue i think , you or I may not have a gun in our houses but maybe a friend may have one that sarah visits.She could find it and relate it to being a toy. The statistics on children shooting themselves is ENORMOUS and studies show children dont have the dexderity *sp* to hold the gun , thus using their thumbs and .... Plus they are just violent things no matter how you put it. Now i know I played with guns when I was young but I think today is a different world, kindergarteners are bringing guns to school! You wouldnt want sarah to watch a violent movie right? so why play with a violent toy. So .....educate on guns , talk about them ABSOLUTELY.. play with them now.. booooooo
I know dan and i have gotten into this debate , him being a Arkansas boy but we agreed that he may take cameron shooting and teach him to respect a gun(take the curiousity out)when he's old enough but until then , no guns in our house. LISTEN TO YOUR WIFE SHES SMART!!
No guns in our house! To hitting or hurting period. If the kids have anger to get out, we yell out loud or even hit a pillow if we need to. You can teach Sarah some of those things, but guns are nothing to mess around with. Sorry Kim's hubby....
ugh- im dealing with this too---
my 5 year old is into star wars right now & is always talking about droids & guns. i just keep repeating my stance that i,mommy, dont like guns. he doesnt shoot people with his imginary gun, usually he'll he'll blast a door open with them or something like that.
i do go over alot that if EVER finds a gun that looks real he should not touch and get a grown up to check it out- and he did!!! our neighbor has a cap gun that looks like a western six shooter and when max first saw it in jacob's bedroom- max came and told me!!! i was very proud of his behavior, and he knows that.
i think guns are not an easy subject with an open & close answer.
HTH
catherine
NO guns in our home--yet. My dad is a big hunter, and there's a lot of pressure for my boys to pursue that hobby. My feelings are that Tag will be intro'd to guns when he is old enough to learn the seriousness and also gun safety, and also to differentiate between real and make-believe. THere may come a time when I feel okay with my boys playing with toy guns, but I knwo that won't be soon. I also think there's a difference between a make-believe game of cops and robbers and a child using a toy gun to act like he's shooting someone out of real-life anger.
Not sure if that made sense, but that's what I'm thinking. I have to side with Kim on this one...
Sara
Good for you, Kim, in taking the issue up with carm later instead of undermining any authority. You don't want the child to see any discord or she will use it against both of you.
Whether or not I agree with you, you also get kudos for standing up for what you believe.
Yay you!
:}
hk
I absolutely abhore guns!!! I have a few things I want to say..
I did home daycare for years and kids will use a toy or an object in many ways even if not what it is intended for. I had little girls using the plastic toy drill as a hair dryer and I had little boys using the skipping rope as the outline of a road for their cars..the point is it is not so much the objects its the actions you really object to..so those are the areas you need to address.
Also, sticks can also be dangerous, my boys were playing outside a few years ago and we had a dog that used to chew on sticks we would pick up on our walks to the park..well this day the boys picked up one of those sticks and were just goofing around playing with it..I heard this banging noise from in the house and realized they were hitting the swing set with the stick and listening to the noise etc. innocent enough but as I went out to ask them to stop the loud banging one child decided to throw the stick away unfortunately he threw it in the direction of my other child and it literally split his forehead wide open a big gushing gash...required 5 stitches...
I hope my point is sort of made...I think your concern is more the issue of violence really and you can help your child learn your values through talk and role playing and always having ideas for games to introduce them to quickly in those moments when you need to divert them away from play that has become violent.
Good luck.
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